Passion
I worry alot about how I portrayed my life. Breaking through all of the nonsense by which prehumanity continues to delude itself was difficult, to put it lightly. Once I had zeroed in on the only aspect of human life that could be the root cause of all of our madness, the rest of putting together the pieces was difficult, because of all of the conditioning we all go through in life. Every single one of us, no matter the culture, goes through the same basic conditioning. Don't think about it, certainly don't talk about it. That is just what a mess we have made of sex. That, alone, speaks to how big a problem sex, and particularly coitus, is. While we discuss/argue violently about all of the sexual alternatives to coitus, we never even mention coitus. We are all too afraid of confronting the source of all problems with sex, the root cause of our madness. It is the primary evidence that something is hidden deep. It has been incorporated in our world view since before there were cultures. The cultures grew to accommodate the maddening state of coitus while never mentioning it. That makes it clear it is the root cause of the madness that has gripped humanity all along.
I often talk about the secret that is no secret. That men have something to learn about coitus/loving/being Human and they don't want to talk about it. It is no secret, really. It's just the prehuman race doesn't want to think about it. Underneath that secret that we all know and never mention, or side by side with it, is another secret. That sex is a mess because of it and we have made a mess of human life because of it. All because we can't confront the thorn in our side.
The portrayal of my own life is so tricky because of it, as well. I guess I haven't misrepresented my own life too much. I make it clear that, all along, I was only looking for what is wrong with (pre)humanity. That is all. Never really expecting to find the problem.
I don't know. Something I wrote not too long ago seemed skewed. I am not going to go try to track it down. It just felt like I was suggesting I went through life on a mission. While I feel that is true, that, beneath all the gibberish that was absorbed because one is always looking for guidelines (in particularly while we remain a demented animal out of its element and comfort zone of stupour* - in other words, the herd mentality vs individual mentalities meeting in common cause: our humanity and clarity regarding our existence), there was something driving me, it certainly didn't appear that way as I journeyed on. I can't say it even felt that way. It just seemed clear that humanity was wasting its time with every single effort it attempted until it can figure out what is wrong with itself. I used to scoff at the great detectives efforts in novels (while reading them voraciously). They resolved nothing. They were caught in a revolving door for the sake of making a name for themselves. Even the reason for my desire for anonymity was never conscious. In some ways, it was an instinctive repulsion caused by everyone wanting to make a name for themselves. The same was true of every effort in intellect. Even though they were all quite fascinating, they never addressed the most crucial problem: what is wrong with humanity?
Maybe a better way to explain it is that my passion disappeared rather abruptly following puberty. Above all, I wanted to love a woman and, yet, it was just not possible. There is no doubt about that predicament, though it was buried beneath three millennia of excuses, quirks, and other obstacles. I have no idea whether, if Loving Coitus was available, I would have been willing to opt for something else in order to accommodate a particular woman. At best, it would have taken some very long discussions. Coitus is just that awesome. And, yet, I was cut off from enjoying it. That may describe the problem of the human race best. Of course, I enjoyed the incredible feeling but the counterpoint of obviously leaving the woman unsatisfied tainted it all. I could never convince myself of what was wrong. That is how deep the idiocy of the race goes. Thank goodness that I always desired clarity and nothing less. For once, I don't even feel bad about having to clarify all of the alternatives that are available. It doesn't change anything I have stated. My passion for a male-female relationship in no way detracts from others that don't care so much about loving a woman in the only way that I felt comfortable. That was my passion. Until it is resolved, everything else was off the table. I want to be able to do it right, come what may, whether it works out that way or not, whether the woman has other ideas. Of course, it now becomes the ultimate frustration that a physical limitation at my age makes it untenable.
I know that I could have had a passion for so many things in life - if I had been able to fulfill my passion for loving a woman. I won't get into whether a single relationship is what the future holds for most or not. While I believe it makes sense for many reasons, there are a lot of reasons, in our current circumstances, that still clutter the picture that may suggest that many will still go through partners like a revolving door. So, I can't say, at this stage. That would be prophesying and I won't do it.
Regarding reincarnation. I believe I have engaged in a number of passions over previous lives. Spent lives being passionate about a number of other efforts.
I had so many pass me by in this lifetime. I would encounter them and say to myself, "eh". They were lovely to entertain but there was something missing that made them all lackluster. It took me a lifetime to figure out what. It seems it took me many lifetimes to figure out what. In other words, the other passions were only lackluster in this life because I had been there before. First of all, they were all just too simple to excel.
This may be the best way in which I have been able to express why I become more confident in the idea of reincarnation. I won't say I believe in it because I have no real choice but to remain agnostic. Anything regarding afterdeath is too much for me in this life. There is no definitive evidence, one way or the other, though a lot of interesting indications if one searches the web. But, too much of my life does not make sense unless something undetectable was driving me.
This is the closest I can come to predicting. All of those other passions could have blossomed into full bloom in this life, if they didn't feel secondary to something. I am sure of it. I was distracted by the big issue, the root cause, and I can pin down no other source for that drive.
I guess that is the other thing. While I say I spent a lifetime seeking what is wrong with humanity and, for all appearances, it looked that way, it wasn't ever a conscious thought, as such.
I can still remember spending hours upon hours writing about what I call surface issues (and surface interactions) in order to pin down if they could possibly be used to figure out what is wrong with humanity. They could not. It was more an exercise in negatives. All of the finger-pointing targets never answered what is wrong with humanity. They are only symptoms. The best, in retrospect, that I can say about them is that they are distractions from the real problem. That is as close to certainty as possible.
I really did write enough to fill more than one book on it (think all of the outside forces, like surface issues and laws, cultural and peer pressure and religious dictates; acting like we are Human while never really being Human). But, I can't say it was something I ever took seriously. Do you see how weird all of this was? Do you see why I have such a difficult time explaining it. It was more like a rather boring, tedious pastime.
It was just the obvious ultimate riddle. What is wrong with humanity? I have always been searching for answers but not in a conscious way. Heck, I even wrote a scifi book on it. It was only after stumbling across what was wrong that it became a conscious effort. Up until then, it was just a way to pass the time in the absence of anything that made sense.
The best way to look at it, I guess, is that there was this layer of delusions covering everything. I was just plugging away at life with this vast suspicion regarding everything I encountered. That didn't stop me from following the herd in way too many ways.
Well, anyways, I don't know if I got to what I was originally intending. That is very much how I attacked humanity's madness. There was no grand goal behind it all. I was as surprised as anyone would be to uncover something that held some promise of actually providing an answer to it all. I was sceptical but I couldn't shoot any holes in it. The longer I perused, the more convincing it became.
I think the main concern I was trying to address in this post is that passion will not snuff out with the advent of Loving Coitus. It will flourish. Of course.
*Comfort zone of stupour will need to be explored further unless someone will get off their asses and begin spreading the word emphatically regarding what is wrong with humanity. Have I not conveyed it clearly enough yet? Have I not been concise enough yet?
I so ache to put it in a 300 character post. Wish that were possible.
The funny thing is that it will be possible, once humanity accepts sentient reality. It would go something like this.
We have treated coitus as an animal does. It is time to grow up and learn to love. Loving Coitus is the only way to clear away the debris of the animal.
That will be all it takes for a sentient race that has gained its clarity. It will be accepted without a second thought.