The dammed river
I've been pondering the stupour, once again. For some reason, my own blockage, as I struggled through it over the last fifteen years, and particularly the first five or so of those years, came to mind.
For five years, while I delved into the fact that coitus is not suitable to Humans in its current state of mindless rutting, my fiercest struggle was all about facing up to the state of coitus as a man, as well as the stress that has been built into the avoidance of contemplating coitus.
One struggle was to own up to the fact that, as a man, I was failing at the most significant, and yet unstated (consciously unacceptable) obligation of expressing my love to a woman in the most intimate way possible. It was such a mind-distorter because of all of the lies men have handed down to their gender and reinforced over the millennia in order to obscure their inability to do anything about it (yet!). [I originally used a more colloquial term (read that as offensive, crude, and more comfortable) than 'mind-distorter']
In many ways, it is man's betrayal of the whole of the female gender, thus betraying their Humanity.
The staggering realization, even now, stuns me. Most of all, men have been distracting themselves from the 'secret that everyone knows' for all of our existence.
I realized this as I pondered the simple, lovely, amazing emotional maturity of woman. I think this is going to require another post about how we have gotten it all Backwards. It is why misogyny exists. The male domination of the female gender is essential to the Big Lie. The domination is the result of the secret that no one is allowed to mention. It is how the secret that is no secret remains repressed. As the truth is twisted, many women are twisted with it. Thus, I think there are few that would agree with me about feminine emotional maturity. This, also, of course, makes it difficult to peer through with clarity.
As I look back on it, my struggle was to admit what few men (if any) have ever faced successfully. It went on for at least five years. In some ways, it went on for the whole fifteen years.
Somewhere along the line, after that initial five years, I realized that the struggle was against all of the paradigms that prehumanity has adopted over the millennia to avoid the subject of coitus and any topics that come anywhere near it; all of the nonsense that men have thrown around for all that time is meant to distract themselves and everyone else from the personal failure.
That relieved the pressure I felt to some extent. It took me the last ten years to realize just how thorough that conditioning on men has been. It twisted every word I attempted to write. Unfortunately, for me, the way in which I penetrated the stupour had its own effects, which still makes it difficult to write clearly. A big part of that, of course, is the complicated situation that we have created. It is still difficult to write about something that no one wants to admit and with whom there is no one to engage in conversation on the subject.
These are the reasons that this has been so difficult to explain clearly and took me fifteen years (don't forget the previous forty years) to do so. It is so foreign from anything we have been allowed to think for close to three millennia. Somehow, men got it in their heads that admitting that coitus leaves something to be desired by all is a betrayal of themselves (and/or their gender). That, of course, led to the disaster of betraying the human, sentient race as a whole. This explains the armed camps of the two genders, always at war with one another. This explains the "good ol' boy's club" better than anything before. It is circling the wagons. It is building a fortress around the utter male failure to become Human. How insane is that?
To be completely clear, we must harken back to the time before we had as much wit as we have today. Our long-dead ancestors really didn't have the wit to face the issue, much less resolve it. So, the building of that fortress was all but inevitable. The difficulty Humanity faces is disassembling that wall of resistance to becoming a sentient race that accepts its heightened awareness at a time when the resolution of unassisted Loving Coitus has finally been comprehended and made available. I don't know that it would have been possible before success was assured.
We just can't think straight (as prehumans) regarding anything about sex until we accept that we can express our love in its most natural manner. That is one of the reasons I have been pulling my hair out for all of those decades. I knew my own pre-settings/pre-conditioning when it came to sex that made it nearly impossible to face up to the truth. I also knew there were other distorted viewpoints with which I was unfamiliar. I had to seek bombardment by those other viewpoints in order to understand the many forms in which the resistance to change was encased.
I realized long, long ago that I had to bypass the surface issues, as well. I get into the surface issue elsewhere.
The most difficult, of course, is still to comprehend the female perceptions regarding coitus. My experiences dismayed me. I am certain women are just as mystified as I was. I was just writing a rhoem regarding one aspect of it that finally sunk in. It suddenly struck me that so many women feel 'dirtied', 'sinful', 'lessened' by the achievement of orgasm (or, maybe, it's just the enjoyment of the act of sex? or, maybe, it's to justify the abuse (mental probably, as well as physical) that they have endured at the hands of men). It is just as bent as any male perspective regarding coitus and, yet, that took me fifteen years to finally perceive clearly, even though it was apparent the whole time.
I am still not completely sure I understand the female perspective on it all. Mystified seems to describe it best but that is just my best guess.
All of the preconditioning is there for both genders. It reinforces the distractions, make certain we never go anywhere near exploring the state of coitus. It never even comes to mind. So, of course, any discussions on sex have been impeded for most of the last three millennia. Then, of late, as the tide of sexual discussions could no longer be stopped, the discussions became hacked to pieces, of course.
We are going more and more mad as a race as the realization comes closer to home. We are becoming more like an animal as the failure is becoming aware to our consciousness without admitting the problem and, finally, succeeding.
I'm not even sure if those that seek some other way to achieve mutual ecstasy even realize (or admit) they are protesting against the failure of coitus to do so.
The power of the desire to look away from the state of coitus is something else. My struggle, those first five years, as I look back on them, were incredible. It was as if there were some dark, dreaded fear lurking in the back of my mind (due to conditioning from birth; the earliest conditioning bypassed all critical thinking), waiting to bite me as I delved into the source of our insanity. [makes me think of fairy tales, religions (as opposed to spirituality), and news, once again]
My rage could strike the moon as I think about it. I think I'm past the rage, though. Now, it is more a matter of utter frustration. I just hope I have written these posts well enough to penetrate the stupour of the animal without the necessity of such a close approach by anyone else that delves into the insanity. I had no choice but to wonder about my own sanity and live a life in which overcoming the insanity meant being so very alone.
As I write all of this, I am, once again, staggered by the awful complexity of the problem that we have never before faced. Every time, as I write, so many other insights fire off in different directions regarding the maze of nonsense we have developed and the awful aftereffects. That, also, makes it difficult to describe.
Just today I realized, once again, that it seems certain (okay, 95% chance) that it will take another lifetime and it is finally easier to take than my previous admissions of such because I have been at this for three thousand years. What's one more lifetime? Other than a lot of pain for a lot of people.
That, as well as all of our concentration that focuses on the superficial issues that can never go away until the root cause of the nonsense is gone also helps me feel more confident about my insights regarding the 90% of the mind I posted elsewhere. The blur we have endured for three millennia is immense it its complexity. It will free up the mind, as well as educate the heart, once we clear the detritus.
No one goes near the real issue. They get themselves caught up in the nonsense of superficial issues that is generated at such a far remove from the actual issue that they convince themselves that they are taking a stand, while all they are really doing is avoiding the dark dread that everyone knows is there as the human race goes on dodging reality and boiling in hate, confusion, delusion, deception, doubt, and contempt for itself.
There is the one mystery I will never entirely resolve (or, at least admit entirely. I cannot convince myself of something so ephemeral as reincarnation). How in the world did I know that all of the superficial nonsense we spend all of our time on meant nothing? while everyone else jumps on the bandwagon without any hesitation? I never, ever engaged it (until just lately, in frustration and, maybe, boredom). There is only one experience in my early youth that comes close to explaining it and it points to reincarnation. I will always lean on that but I can't consider it an answer to the particular mystery of afterdeath. It will remain only a supposition. At least in this life.
It is all so confusing and complicated, except for the simple fact to which it leads. Loving Coitus must exist for humanity to gain its sanity. Only at the heart of it all is an answer.